Being Human

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I like listening to people; listening bestows upon those who take the time a very privileged position indeed.

It’s a privilege I always endeavor to respect, a privilege which enables me to meet some amazing people.

Last week I met a woman who was my age. She was born and bred in a city almost the same size as Christchurch. Had distance not been a barrier, we could easily have known each other. Certainly, there was no seven degrees of separation going on here. Maybe one, two at max.

Same age, same culture, same aspirations, but oh so different outcomes. The reason why?

Disability!

da vinci

The person I was listening to had struggled with Fibro Myalgia since puberty – her hormones not only transforming her into a young woman, but also bringing on an illness which has plagued her adult life. The onset of her Fibro resulted in hospital stays as a teenager, meaning her schooling fell behind.

Falling behind at school, feeling ill, then losing contact with all her mates brought on a deep depression and her life spiraled out of control. Within a few years, a happy healthy young girl grew into a sickly depressed young woman who felt isolated and afraid. Shelived in pain; physically, emotionally and spiritually.

fibro

Fibro was not well understood in the 1970’s and 80’s. And, even some within the medical profession believed my clients symptoms and complaints more were closely related to my clients head, than her body. As a result she was eventually institutionalized in a psychiatric setting.

My client was painfully honest as she explained her story; it was told with candidacy and honesty, making it all the more disturbing. I was not shocked, I hear these types of stories from time to time. But what struck me about this person was her pride and her ability to separate Human Beings from being human.

It was obvious her ailments meant long-term sustainable employment was not possible. So, in order to get by my client explained that she became a tart and was on the game for twenty years. She told me it was the only employment that suited her ailments. It meant that she could work whenever she was well enough. It meant she could afford to live a modest lifestyle, but in a life which was  empty and degrading.

prostitute

She told she was not proud of what she had done, but equally she also said she was not ashamed.

I said nothing, what could I say? She had said it all.

I thought back to when we were both kids. Our lives were probably much the same – running around the house and neighbourhood, running under the hose on hot summer days. I thought how we could have been friends, neighbours, how we could even have been family. I thought how it could easily have been me who was living with a disability.

Girl jumps through water sprinkler.

Girl jumps through water sprinkler.

At the end of our meeting I thanked my client for her honesty and I commented and complimented on her dignity. Then I thanked her for reminding me what it takes to be human.

Please note: In order to preserve confidentiality, the person I am describing above is actually a composite of 3 people. While their stories may be slightly different; the life lived as described above is a common one and very realistic.

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Kia Ora Roly

2 thoughts on “Being Human

  1. interesting, but there you wrote “I was not shocked, I hear these types of stories regularly” which is in my opinion in contradiction with the core message of this post about listening and the Guevara quote, you took all the story’s individuality away by saying “these types” , i know that the story is common we all heard it many many times, but i think each one is unique in a very special way, Dostoyevsky went to whorehouses and slept with each and he considered it work, as each story at the very least has a flavor of its own.
    not trying to critique, just letting you how i felt upon reading this line.
    Love the Blog, randomly read a few posts
    and thanks for following

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    • Hi Maya, many thanks for your comment and your follow. I agree with you 100% – the difficulty I had was to try and protect client confidentiality. You are so right, every person is individual – and their stories are unique. I am sorry that my sanitized version did not have the impact that the person deserved and you felt was important. But unfortunately I would have done my client and my employer more of a dis-service by telling her story exclusively. But I do appreciate and understand your view – thanks for raising this.

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